It is common for any romantic relationship to start on a high note then slowly tone down as the initial fire wears out. It is not normal, however, for partners to grow apart so much that the fire wears out completely and they begin to operate as friends or room-mates and not as lovers.
You can manage the decline to ensure that you and your partner don’t grow apart and that you keep the fire alive in your relationship no matter how long you stay together. If the romance has taken a dip, there are certain actions you can take to reignite the romance in your relationship.
It is important to note that building a successful and loving relationship will take some effort. You will be amazed at how the simplest gestures can mean a lot to the person you love. Letting them know that you actually care about them and that you think about them often will make you both fall in love all over again.
People want to feel loved and appreciated–especially by their partners. To reignite the romance in your relationship, here are some ideas you can put to quick use:
Be More Physical
When your relationship was still fresh, you always found an excuse to hold hands, kiss, hug, or cuddle. If you find that you and your partner touch less and less, you want to begin to initiate touch again.
Physical affection is an important aspect of any romantic relationship. It is important both in the process of creating and the process of sustaining a relationship. Letting touch slip away can be crippling to a relationship. The various ways in which you touch will elicit different feelings and attitudes.
Cultivate and Share Hobbies
You will be better soul mates if you have some interests in common with your lover. You don’t have to stick to the hobbies you had already developed when you entered into the relationship. In the spirit of adventure and self-growth, both of you should be willing to take on new challenges and develop new interesting hobbies that you can share.
Wherever you live, there are a lot of both indoor and outdoor hobbies that couples can learn and enjoy. It is not so much the activity itself but the fact that you are spending quality time with the person you love that will bring you the most joy.
Become a Better Person
The greatest gift you can give to your lover is the gift of self-development. When you develop the philosophy that you can grow as a person and become better and actually follow through, you give your partner more reasons to love you. Living a fulfilling life also makes you a generally joyful and happy person. Happy people are more fun to be around.
Have Date Nights
Date nights give you a convenient way to break the routine of your relationship and actually give your partner undivided attention. You don’t have to go out to elaborate dinners every night. You are past the point of using dinners to impress one another, so go for what works for both of you.
Some people find official dinner dates at high-end restaurants boring. If you’ve been with your partner long enough, you probably already know what they like and what they don’t like. Be open to experimenting with various establishments and situations until you find what works for both of you.
Take a Vacation Together
Spending a lot of quality time with the person you love is a perfect way to reignite the spark in your relationship. No situation offers more opportunities to spend a lot of time with your lover than a vacation does.
As a couple, you have more accommodation options than the average solo traveler has. Besides normal hotels and lodges, you can stay at couples all-inclusive resorts. These resorts are tailored specifically to couples in love and will provide you with a great environment to relax and have fun. Be sure to avoid a family-friendly resort, for this type of resort caters more to children and families–leaving intimacy and passion out of the picture.
Put the Phone Down
Are you spending the limited time you have in front of your partner glued to a screen? It is amazing how much time the average person spends in front of a screen relative to the time they give to the people they love.
When you are with your lover, put the phone down and actually be present. Most of the communication we humans do is through body language. You will miss important things your partner is trying to communicate if you don’t pay attention. Communication is the pillar of all relationships. Don’t let a digital screen create a barrier between you and your significant other.
Show You Care
Relationships aren’t always easy, sometimes you have to try really hard to make things work. If you and your partner truly love each other, and have just found yourselves in a funk–it’s possible to get out of it.
Make the most of the time you have together, and show your partner that you love them in more ways than just saying it. If your relationship can make it through this tough time, it’s obvious the two of you belong together.